This Week - Inviting Offers
I am a male in my 30s in a very lovable, committed relationship. My partner is considerably older than myself. She finds no harm in giving and asking for other men's phone numbers in order to have coffee, though she tells them she is in a committed relationship. When men do phone to set up a coffee date, she declines.
When I find out about it, she says it is a purely innocent gesture, and she does not understand why I am angry or hurt. Is this a form of unfaithfulness, or am I just being a prude?
Rod, the publisher Bennett Cerf was known for placing ads for books which didn't exist. He or his staff would dream up a title like Seven Tips of Great Gardeners. If enough orders came in for the book, he would commission someone to write it. In the meantime he would return customers' money telling them the book was out of stock or temporarily unavailable.
Your girlfriend is advertising her availability, a product which does not yet exist, but if demand is sufficient, it may. She is also compiling a list of back orders she may decide to fill. You know how much men respect a woman in a relationship who asks for their phone number. Those men know the difference between a committed woman and a woman asking them for a date, and so does she.
Wayne & Tamara
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