The Hard Road
I am going through what you could call a divorce, though he divorced me nine months ago. We have one child, and he left with no explanation and no warning. I tried to find out why. He would not tell me.
I still love him and can't seem to move on, and he's already married the girl he left me for. I sit here and think of him all the time.
Janice, imagine you lost your keys. You search everywhere. You look in your dresser drawer six times. The keys aren't there. To make yourself feel better, you look one more time. When you see they still aren't there, accept it. Trust what you see with your own eyes. Don't torture yourself by looking there again.
Whatever plans, hopes and dreams you had with this man aren't going to happen. Perhaps he will be involved in your child's life, perhaps not. But you have to realize the keys to your life are not to be found in this drawer. They are not to be found with this man.
The only way to stop hurting is by focusing on what you can do and where you are going. The more you focus on your ex-husband, the more pain you will inflict on yourself. Nine months ago you were where you are now. If you don't change your focus, you will still be there nine months from now.
Wayne & Tamara